Ego Management

How to Tame the Monkey Mind & Find Inner Peace

This post is not necessarily meant for people who just think a lot. Here I am specifically talking about the monkey mind: The uncontrollable mind that seems to drag you from one horror-scenario to another and puts the worst scenario on repeat.  Trying to stop this internal chatter is in vain as long as you …

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The surprising benefits of feeling shame

Shame is human, it’s natural and it can be very healthy! Yes, if you deal with your shame in a conscious way it can actually be a cleansing proces. Shame becomes toxic when you either ignore it or allow it to take control over you. They key is to actively and consciously face your shame …

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Cure perfectionism and regain your strength

I think it’s important to have a very close look at perfectionism. Why? Because it’s one of the nasty personality traits that can be advertised as virtues. People seem to find it fancy to be a perfectionist, often mention it as their weaknesses during a job interview. Yes, it is a weakness and we should …

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Ego or higher Self? The 3 main differences

If you hear voices in your head, no worries. You’re not crazy, we all hear them. Hearing them better and clearer is even a sign of increased sanity. There are so many voices in our head (the ego, the higher Self, the inner child, the inner critic etc.) it seems like there’s an entire village …

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4 Lessons from a complaint detox

Recently I challenged myself not to complain for an entire week. Naturally, I complain a lot. Rarely about big issues, but more about small ones. I can clearly see how people create blocks in their lives by complaining excessively. They spend all their energy with complaining, but not really with doing something. For some reason, …

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Have fun in dealing with difficult people!

Nearly three months ago I launched myself into a new adventure. I took a temporary job for 6 months in a hotel in the Swiss alps. I had been dreaming of living in nature, so I immediately took this opportunity. After nearly 8 years of working for the same agency in Amsterdam, I was ready …

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How to overcome jealousy with love

Being in the grip of jealousy is a terrible feeling. Everyone who has seriously experienced jealousy knows how paralyzing and irrational it can make you. Whether there is real cause for being jealous or it is just a suspicion, the feeling can completely captivate you and drain your energy. I am familiar with both situations. And …

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Free yourself from the need to be right

You’re in the middle of a heated discussion, your heart is pounding, your throat is constricted and you can feel the steam coming of your head. If you’re not familiar with this situation, no need to read any further. To me this situation is maybe a bit too familiar. By nature, I am a very …

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Empower yourself by taking responsibility

Healing comes from taking responsibility: to realize that it is you – and no one else- that creates your thoughts, your feelings, your actions. – Peter Shepherd Are you trying to say that I am responsible for my own pain? Yes, that is exactly what I am trying to say. You are the only one …

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My secret to happiness: Forgiveness…

In my previous post I already pointed out the importance of forgiveness. But this topic definitely deserves more attention. Therefore, I decided to write an entire post about it. In this post I do not only want to emphasize that forgiveness is important, but also why it is important and how it is best done. …

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